I don’t really think there needs to be a guide for this.
The only way to have a successful relationship with boundaries is by being honest.
Be honest about your beliefs, dreams, goals, quirks, fears, and idiosyncrasies.
Be honest about the way you like the dishwasher loaded, your favorite show to watch when you’re sad, and the playlists that you listen to in your car, and belt at the top of your lungs, even though they are ridiculous songs from Veggie Tales.
Be honest about whether you want to have children, or can have them.
Be honest about your faith, where your loyalties lie, the kind of person you want people to remember you as when you are not in the room, or no longer here.
Be honest about your favorite ice cream flavor.
Be honest about how much, or how little, space you need depending on the emotions you are feeling.
Be honest about how important it is to you to be held and comforted when you are sad and crying.
Most importantly, you have to be honest with God and yourself first, and then being honest with the right people comes easy.
It is when we conceal who we are and what we really need first that we feel compelled to set boundaries later.
If we speak our truth from the beginning, “boundaries” will naturally fall into place.
❤
The Yellow Door Life 
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